My girlfriend and I go back and forth from having peace and love in our relationship to getting into huge hurricane-like arguments. We’ve always worked our way through the arguments and kept going with the relationship on the assumption that we’re working towards ending the conflict for good and just having the love. Yet if we really look at our past, we have no evidence that there will ever be an end to the conflict because conflict keeps happening over and over again, no matter how much better we get at maintaining the love. Are we working towards a fantasy? Can two people ever achieve peace and harmony in a relationship?

Most relationships eventually end in a conflict, or as a result of conflict, because one or the other partner has not taken responsibil­ity for their own feelings and thoughts that the relationship is mirror­ing. If the relationship withstands the many seasons of purification, it naturally can grow into a stronger bond. However, to expect conflict to end is a hope created by the mind, which wants to reach a certain goal. If you drop your need to always be right, or to want the conflict to end, and instead look inside to see what the conflict is showing you about your own ego-mind, you can move from your head into your heart, and surrendering to love will happen naturally. Drop your need to have no conflict and accept the conflict just as you accept the love. If you accept one but deny the other, you are in trouble. You either accept both or drop both.

Each relationship has a history of unlived and unfinished business from this or previous lives that needs to be completed. Conflict provides the opportunity for issues to come to the surface so they can be seen, dealt with, and completed. Conflict helps us grow and evolve. It’s rare to have a relationship without any conflict. Every disagreement wakes us up and tells us when we’ve dozed off from the truth of our heart. Usually, when you are in your thoughts and focused on your own needs and desires, you miss seeing what is happening within your partner. So you get a wake-up call through a conflict to remind you to return to your heart. Unless both of you are alert and present in your heart, your minds are bound to clash because you both need to be awoken to the present.

If you are present, even disharmony is harmony because you aren’t trying to fix something or someone. Instead, you are keeping your focus on what you are learning. So there is no problem in disagreements or arguments if you keep your heart open and continue learning. What’s most important is that you don’t blame the other but look inside and become aware of your own unconscious. Everyone is a complex uni­verse, and if you aren’t doing your inner work, you won’t see your own lessons within the relationship.

Generally, people don’t see their own lessons within the relationship because they remain focused on blaming or trying to change the other instead of looking inside and becoming more conscious of themselves. Unless you find your own truth, you will remain insecure and eventu­ally suffocate yourself and your partner. For a relationship to last, both partners need to commit to being honest with each other, take respon­sibility for their own growth, and give each other space to grow.

Excerpted from the 7-time award winning book, In Search of the Miraculous: Healing into Consciousness, available at www.healingintoconsciousness.com

The energy of Darkness was the energy of all the unconsciousness within the universe, including the unconsciousness of all humans living on the planet Earth. Light was aware of Darkness and conscious of itself, and Darkness was aware of Light but it was unconscious of itself. Darkness was threatened by Light and thought that Light was its enemy. Light knew it was once part of Darkness and wanted Darkness to know that they were not separate. Darkness, however, was afraid of Light’s power to expose things hidden in the darkness.

Feeling threatened by Light, Darkness tried to suppress it in order to maintain control and rule the Earth. The Light, attempting to grow in size and brightness, was patiently waiting for other beings to awaken and join in its endless celebration of Joy. Suddenly, within seconds, many small light streams emerged out of Darkness and at the speed of light began entering into the ball of Light from all directions. As the light of each awakened being merged with the collective Light of the Awakened Ones, it lost its separate identity as an “I” and became one with the collective consciousness of Light. Light quickly grew in size and strength.

Then, all movement stopped just as suddenly as it had begun, and everything came to a standstill. Light, though visibly smaller compared to the Darkness that prevailed on the planet Earth, was now as powerful as Darkness. A question stood hanging in the air: Who would win the battle and tip the scale, to determine how humanity would live for the next 2,500 years? Who would rule life on Earth? Would it be the creative and compassionate consciousness of Light or the destructive unconsciousness of Darkness? Darkness struggled to maintain its power, while Light, with its now greater size and strength, almost forcibly pulled one more light stream out of Darkness. As this last light stream entered the Light, it tipped the scale of power and Light became victorious.

This vision filled my heart with joy. Deep in my soul I knew that in spite of the much-talked about coming doomsday that the unconscious powers are preparing for, the Light will overcome Darkness and humanity will enter the Enlightened Era of greater consciousness – a consciousness that cares for all fellow humans, the Planet and all its creatures. Although it may seem like life on Earth is becoming grimmer, I believe, as do many others, that the foundation of our collective consciousness is strong, and the new dawn of a more aware and loving humanity is just around the corner.

Every one of us can make a difference in our common future by courageously transforming the unconscious darkness of our own ego-mind into consciousness. Conscious people don’t create wars – they strive for unity. Only consciousness can help us live in peace, freedom, love, and brotherhood, and make this planet a better place for ourselves and the generations to come.

I hope this book is an invitation and a supportive guide in your journey from Darkness into Light.

Excerpted from In Search of the Miraculous: Healing into Consciousness by Eliza Mada Dalian

I hope this note finds you healthy and happy!

Whenever I set out to write something it always comes as an inspiration. I trust that the inspiration comes from the source that we are all a part of and thus in some way or other will also inspire and benefit you.

Many people have been asking me what I think about the “end of the world” as predicted by the Mayans. I know that many people who are aware that something Big is predicted to happen on December 21, 2012 have been preparing in some way or other to make it a meaningful day.

All my life I have lived trusting my intuition and inner knowingness and acting upon it. This is how existence has always spoken to me and always speaks to everyone when we are silent and listen.

As I write to you from Mexico, the original home of the Mayans, here is what my inner knower is telling me:
– December 21st 2012 will be just another day, though significant as the Winter Solstice. All you can do is live each day consciously in the present, enjoying every moment the heavens offer you! Having said this, I can also feel the power of people’s thoughts and how simply by thinking things can be manifested.

I feel, however, something dramatic will definitely happen in 2013 and it will come as a surprise to all of us. Existence is compassionate. It wants and waits for everyone to wake up! Awakening always happens as a surprise when the mind least expects it. When we expect something with our mind we remain identified with it and thus miss being fully present. In the present is where awakening always happens. Awakening is a gift from the universe and can never be predicted.

Why am I writing this? Simply to remind you to be present in the Here and Now no matter what! This moment is the only place that is real. This moment is all we have, because within it is where you will find eternal life.

In the epilogue of my book In Search of the Miraculous: Healing into Consciousness I have shared a vision I had in 1990. It is the light of those who have and are transforming into consciousness that will save this planet and its inhabitants, and will help to transform the way we live our life on the planet. For those of you who already have the book, I invite you to read the epilogue there. For those of you who do not have the book, I will share it with you in my next email.

So don’t worry about the end of the world, just live today and every day fully and stay in your heart – a place where we all meet and feel at home!

Have a wonderful today, tomorrow, and every day!

Happy holidays with love and abundant blessings,

Mada

PS. I would like to let you know that for those of you who missed my interview with Meyer Toole, the host of the Energy Psychology Cafe, there will be a re-play this weekend due to numerous requests. Click here

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~ Eliza Mada Dalian

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As one can easily see from my profile, for many years I have been drawn to read books related to spirituality and personal growth. I’ve always found that the ideal book for me to read at a particular time has come across my path at precisely that time. I definitely found this to be the case with “In Search of the Miraculous” as well. This truly is a wonderful book, as it delves deeply into the elusive subject of “enlightenment” in extensive detail, uniquely combining insightful, inspiring, and thought-provoking content with practical “how-to” suggestions.

The author authentically shares her life experiences and philosophy without coming across as some guru who has it all figured out. The book is very well-written and smartly organized, and makes for very interesting reading. It is ideally suited for people who have been on the path of spiritual growth for many years, as there are some intensive metaphysical concepts addressed within it that may be a bit too far out on the curve for newcomers to that path. If you are an experienced “seeker,” I feel very confident that you’’ll find solid value in this work. Here’s one of my favorite passages from it:

 ”Your fear is a blessing. It is giving you an opportunity to disidentify from your mind and learn to trust the unknown. The mind can never trust or surrender. Trust always happens through intelligence and consciousness. The mind always asks for guarantees, but life never offers any. Life unfolds moment to moment, and each moment arises as a result of the moment that was surrendered before it. Life is a surprise that always arises out of the unknown. You can either embrace the unknown and live it fully and joyously, or resist it and live in pain, fear, and struggle.”

~ Jeff Maziarek, author of Spirituality Simplified

In Search of the Miraculous: Healing into Consciousness is available at www.healingintoconsciousness.com, amazon.com, amazon.ca, B&N, and Chapters.

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Dear Friends,

One of the inspiring aspects of my work is seeing how parents, who are working on their own transformation, pass on what they’ve learned to their children. Supporting children to grow without the heavy conditionings and repressions means that their children will not have to go through the same difficult process of getting back to their inner peace and purity as they did. To eliminate pain and suffering on the planet for the generations that come after us we must start to lay the right foundation for our children. By teaching children early on how to find their inner strength and center we can contribute in creating heart-centered living and joyful beings who will celebrate and enjoy life instead of destroy it through wars and ignorance.

Here is a story of a beautiful mother who passed on components of the self-healing Dalian Method she learned during the Healing into Consciousness 8 Week Online Course to her six year old son. With her permission I am happy to share it with you in this newsletter.

This morning my young son of 6 years woke up tired and grumpy. He has a cold sore on his mouth and was feeling very self conscious. I asked him if he felt bad about himself? He nodded. I decided to try the Dalian Method exercise that we had been working with on the online course…Afterward, he immediately proceeded to get down off the chair and sat crossed legged on the floor, holding the tips of his index finger and thumb together and closed his eyes. I was filled with such love and awe. I have never taught him anything like this before. He then looked up at me and said “I am peace sitting”!!!!
I asked him how he knew this, he replied “I don’t know”. W O W – W O W – W O W

I was soooo touched, my heart filled with so much love and gratitude. It was seen so clearly how we have simply forgotten who we really are. Covered up with layer upon layer of who we are not. I was also filled with so much gratitude to Mada and my Being for receiving this in my life to pass on to others. ~ Tara

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They had forgotten who they were. It wasn’t long before the little girl chose to be ‘alone.’ She couldn’t take the misery and pain of others. She couldn’t take the misery and pain inflicted on her with their ignorance, criticisms and rejections. She tried to help but couldn’t. She tried to hide, but couldn’t. She tried to be herself but couldn’t, the world was full of telling her how to ‘be’ and not to ‘be’. Soon she camouflaged who she really was and how to be. She played a waiting game, a game of waiting to go ‘Home’. She searched for truth. Doubt played a huge roll when truth was revealed time and time again. The truth of who she really was was buried deep beneath the layers of who she was not.” ~ Tara

Mada: Every little girl and boy felt this way once. Thanks Tara for how beautifully you said this!